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2020.10.19 22:48 rmtaylor33 How easy is it really got get a job in computer programming?!?

My SO and I dated for a year in person and have been long distance for another year. We’re debating where to live (USA or Spain). Wondered if you could provide some guidance on his possible career in the USA.
He is Spanish and has been working for 10+ years in C++, python, and some other coding languages. He has worked at the biggest bank in Spain as a Quantitative developer for the past ten years. He has an undergrad in computer science and a masters in quantitative finance. He speaks and writes fluently in both English and Spanish.
He thinks it would be hard for him to find work in the USA ( specifically Washington DC). My impression from perusing job boards is he’s qualified and would have a relatively easy time finding work. Any advice on this would be helpful!
Bonus points if you can give me a salary range for someone with this general profile.
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2020.10.19 22:48 anbheanog Do guys think girls are eager if they text them first after the first date?

Had a first date with this guy in my opinion i felt it went well and we had fun together. Stayed the night didnt have sex and left the next day.
He hasn't texted me yet, should i text him or do i seem eager? I already told him i had a good time.
My dating experience has been nothing but letdowns so i dont know whats even right anymore!!
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2020.10.19 22:47 oorangebean My bf is addicted to weed.

I am not sure if this is allowed in this group to ask. However, my boyfriend is addicted to weed. He smokes everyday! Everyday after work, the first thing he does is gets high. Before going to bed, he gets high again and during the weekends it’s his getting high time. I have been very patient and I have explained to him multiple times my concerns with his excessive weed usage. He disagrees that he is addicted to weed. I think the lockdown has just put him more deeper into his habit. However, this stresses me out and I have spent days if not weeks sad as I don’t feel like I’m a part of his life. It’s been more than two years that we have been dating and he’s kind and lovely. It is hard as he has told me clearly that he is not gonna leave smoking. And I believe him! I am the kinda person who believes in a person’s potential/goodness beyond they show it. However, I am starting to think this might not work out, between my partner and I. As I love being present and enjoying little things while he is mostly sunken into his high state. What would you suggest?
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2020.10.19 22:45 blakepredicts Comment thread about Tom Cruise

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Comment thread
u/HailZorpTheSurveyor: Say what you want about him and his weird ass lifestyle, but you have to respect his professional dedication.
u/theatxrunner: Anecdotal story. he toured the place I worked around 2002. He was with Penelope Cruz. Me and maybe three other employees were standing on a sidewalk to meet him as they entered the building. He walked right past us without making eye contact. It was a bummer. If you’re getting VIP treatment as a guest, at least acknowledge people who are obviously waiting to meet you. Seeing him wave in this vid makes me think maybe he was having a bad day back then, or something. 🤷🏻‍♂️
u/bobandy47: I used to do transport (read: effectively the Taxi Bitch) for musical acts at an annual music festival and having been in repeated contact with a wide "these" entertainer people, they meet "so many" people in a day it gets exhausting. At a certain point they just want to veg out - high ability/practice aside, they're still just people, just humans.
So it doesn't surprise me one bit that if it was a "date night" (as it were) he'd want to just get on with it. Especially if it's date night with Penelope Cruz, particularly in 2002.
u/Bulletorpedo: Close to 20 years ago I got tasked with driving one of Norway’s most famous singers to the airport after a concert. She gave me a hug and said I was a great chauffeur. I still love her for it.
u/juanmlm: Guy I worked with had a similar experience. He requested no one talk to him or even look at him, and he had an entrance to the set arranged for him only, that no one could use.
u/Kinoblau: I've worked with a ton of people who've worked with Tom Cruise and they never had stories like this, they were always really complimentary of him and his professionalism.
u/MAJOR_Blarg: No, he was waving because he couldn't escape. He is a huge dick to the "little people" pretty consistently.
When he was at our Naval Air Station a few years ago filming scenes for TG2, his handlers made a big circle around him while he was walking through the aircraft hangers and such, repeating "Don't look at Mr. Cruise, don't talk to Mr. Cruise, turn away."
I've heard he was similar on the aircraft carrier when they were filming that as well. Except, you know, stuck on a boat.
u/theatxrunner: That’s funny. My experience was at a government facility as well. Def not filming a movie though, and no noticeable handlers.
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2020.10.19 22:43 wishywashylife Torn between my Husband and another man. It's not what you think!!

Now, I'm asking in the hope of no judgement however I understand I'm going to cop some in the process.
I've been with my Husband for 9 years, married for 3. We've always had a good relationship in that we communicate, our lives run smoothly and we compliment each other just generally speaking.
Around a year prior to getting married our sex life dropped off. I have a high sex drive and I've always wanted it at least every second day, usually more. Even in the year leading up to that it was maybe once a week which has never fully satisfied me, but I've accepted it because I was getting some satisfaction and on a regular basis. Anyway, so, it completely dropped off. After 3 months of nothing at all, I approached the topic and we talked and he said he just doesn't enjoy sex that much, he never has and that he thinks perhaps we need to open our relationship up. We discussed this and he said he thought that maybe I needed to get my sex elsewhere but he loves our relationship and me so didn't want us to end because of sex when everything else was great.
I was very torn by this, it felt wrong and strange. He was supportive and had his own boundaries which were all perfectly reasonable. The first few times it was really hard to let go of the sense that it was wrong. But I worked out a way to mentally and emotionally balance it and everything was good.
Now, fast forward to around 3 months ago. I had an online dating profile (husband had full access at all times), and I had it very clearly mentioned in my profile that I'm married and what my situation is. Within 3 messages with every match, I would reiterate what my situation is and some would not be okay with it and we would unmatch, end of story. No problem.
Well, I think you can possibly see where this is going.... I matched with a guy, we talked initially via the app we matched on. I told him what my situation was early on like always and he said he had no issue, he wasn't interested in a relationship. Sweet. We exchanged numbers after a bit and kept chatting. Now, I was away for work at the time and he was near where I live. So, I wasn't able to see him. He told me about his situation as he is divorced and has kids etc.. We talked more than I ever had previously with anyone.
I finally come home after a few weeks away, and we meet that weekend at his house. We have sex, a lot. I leave and go home, we arrange to see each other again. He is hands down the best I've ever had AND we get along like a house on fire. It was an instant connection even when it was all messaging.
After about a month of having sex multiple times a week, he told me he had feelings for me and I distanced myself. That wasn't supposed to happen. He knows my situation. He knows what this was about. I told him clearly that I'm married, this is purely to fill a need.
I told my Husband and he shrugged it off. Figured that if the sex was good then perhaps he thinks he has feelings because he can't have me.
I was sitting around after work and I'd had a bad day, and I found myself wanting to speak to this other guy. I wanted to call him, talk to him about it. Which felt very strange, as I'd always felt that way about my Husband.
I got a promotion and without thinking, I called this other guy. Later on I realised I hadn't even told my husband yet. It was just really odd that I didn't realise, I didn't tell him til hours after I found out.
I was honest with my Husband and he said maybe I need some time to consider what I really want and we've been sleeping in separate beds, not really spending any time together at all. I'm not normally an indecisive person and I realised why I was so confused and torn about it all.
With my Husband I have financial security, predictability, I'm comfortable. I would have control over things like having children.
With this other guy I would not have financial security, I wouldn't have predictability, I'm comfortable emotionally etc but not in every single sense. I would be signing up to be a step parent to 3 kids.
But, I realised that my Husband is security. He's a sure thing. I would always have a comfortable life. The other guy, I don't know what the future would hold, but the connection runs deep. I never felt the same way even at the start of my relationship with my Husband.
I get that there's more to it than only what I can get out in this post. But, if you want clarification or to ask a question, I will answer it. I want genuine and serious advice based on honest information. Not on a version that makes me look better or makes it something it's not.
Help? What do I do? Is there something I should consider to make it easier? Please, I need help!
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2020.10.19 22:41 A_Haunted_Throwaway New house, trespassing teenagers, an alleged haunting, my poor understanding of how case law works. At least it's seasonally appropriate? New York.

TL;DR: Recently bought a house with an unattached structure on the property that teenagers are frequently trying to break into. Just found out that they are doing so because it’s allegedly haunted, then found out that my state actually has some precedent for this type of situation but I am dumb about legal stuff. Now what?
Background: My wife and I closed on our house in November of last year and moved in this January. There’s another structure in the backyard, close to the rear property line. It was originally some sort of barn or workshop, but a previous owner converted it to livable space with electricity and plumbing etc. The people we bought the property from weren’t using it, and it’s in a state of mild disrepair - it looks like shit, but isn’t falling down or anything. We have plans for it, but they’re going to require significant remodeling and we want to play it safe with our finances due to the pandemic, so that’s on hold for now. I’ll be referring to this structure as the cabin for the sake of simplicity. This is in New York State, and to be 100% clear, I do not believe in ghosts, nor have I had any spooky or unexplainable experiences since moving in.
I was up working stupid late one night in early April when the motion light in our backyard was triggered for the first time since moving in. Upon going out back to investigate, I caught a small group of teenagers pretty obviously trying to find a way into the cabin, but when they saw me, they bolted into the wooded area that separates my property from my rear neighbors. I had a few similar incidents (or signs of them in the morning) over the summer, and have taken various steps to secure the property: security cameras, more lights etc. I’ve filed a police report after each incident, but the kids have been smart enough to mask up (which I suppose is easy enough these days), so there hasn’t been much more they can do.
The frequency of these incidents has increased quite a bit in the last few weeks or so, to the point that I’ve considered just posting up on my back deck overnight (wife is not a fan of this approach). I’ve started asking my neighbors if they’ve had similar issues and to keep an eye out for me, which leads us to the fun part. Late last week I knocked on my rear neighbor’s door, since lately the kids mostly seem to be coming through the wooded area between our backyards that I mentioned earlier. He sort of laughed and told me that he’d keep an eye out, but said that I can expect more of it as we get closer to Halloween and that it’ll slow down afterward. I asked what he means, and he said that the kids are trying to catch a look at the ghost. I had absolutely no idea what he was talking about, so he filled me in on the story. Apparently the property I bought - specifically the cabin, but the house factors in as well - is the subject of a local legend that dates back to at least the middle of the twentieth century. I’d be more specific but the story is distinct enough that locals will recognize it more or less immediately. Anyway, it seems that kids trying to access the cabin is nothing new, especially around Halloween. The seller 100% knew about this, as they had discussed it with this neighbor in the past. Nothing was disclosed to us in the process of buying the house.
I spoke to a friend of mine who is aware of the situation last night, and updated him on the alleged haunting at the root of the problem. He rather excitedly informed me of a case surrounding a house in the town where his husband grew up - the house was reputedly haunted, and upon being sold, the buyer successfully sued the seller for not disclosing its reputation. I reached out to both our real estate agent and the attorney we used for the transaction this morning; the realtor hasn’t responded, and I just heard back from the attorney’s admin who told me that she’ll pass my message to him but I probably won’t hear back for a few days. I am an occasional lurker of this forum, so I decided to post it here to see what you guys think.
And now for my questions:
The friend who told me about the haunted house lawsuit is going to email me an article about it, but I am not at all well versed in legal stuff. Is anyone here familiar with this case (it’s apparently very well known?), and is there anything about my situation that would preclude it from being applicable?
The cabin was a big part of the reason we bought this place, and our plan is to convert it to sort of a workshop/storage area for some hobbies of ours that benefit greatly from having a reasonably large, dedicated space. Some of the stuff that I was planning to keep in there is relatively valuable, and the sellers/their agent were 100% aware of this, as I specifically asked if there was anything about the cabin that would complicate using it for our intended purposes (I DID NOT EXPECT THAT THING TO BE GHOSTS). I am not at all comfortable with this plan now, since my hobby in particular involves the type of thing that a less than upstanding teenager would absolutely run off with if given the opportunity. Is this something that we’d be able to sue the sellers for or am I in caveat emptor territory here?
On the subject of “appealing to teenagers,” I am very vaguely aware of the concept of attractive nuisances. Would “local legend that is purportedly haunted as shit” meet the criteria for that? I’ve got no trespassing signs up and everything is as locked down as possible, but the interior is not in great shape and I am concerned about getting sued if a kid manages to get in and hurts themselves, or does so in the process of trying to get in. If so, what is the best way to protect myself from liability?
Beyond that, is there any general stuff that I am not considering/should be aware of/need to bring up when I speak to my attorney?
Thanks in advance
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2020.10.19 22:41 eliyager My (F15) best guy friend(whom i recently i realized i like him) (M15) invited me and his crush (F16) that lives three hours away for a movie night and for some reason i agreed

right so this is weird so I'm gonna do it the best I can also we're all in high school. I met this guy (let's call him Issac) in elementary and ever since then we've been best friends and ill admit I've had some crushes about him over the years and he told me he had to but the furthest we've ever gone was a kiss on the cheek and him undoing my bra (as a dare), even though people have thought me and Issac are a couple when they first met us and we have this weird sexual tension between us we have never talked about this, whenever we meet we somehow always play truth or dare from an app and there's always sexual stuff but we usually don't do them. During the summer I've left a guy I was sort of seeing but not really (me and the guy officially "broke up" after six and a half months of "dating") and I've started to think about how I might like Issac, while I was thinking about this Issac went away for a training camp in hockey while he was there I realized I like him. In the morning he came back he told me he met someone at camp let's call her Nina and she's like everything he wanted so obviously I was happy for him but it hurt a little bit but I got over it. Last month he told me he knows him and she is not gonna date because she doesn't want a boyfriend atm but he doesn't want me to be friends with her (even though she's awesome and wants to be my friend too) and says he only wants us to be friends if they will date and refuse to give me a reason why. Two weeks ago I realized I still like him but I don't really wanna do anything with it. A couple of days ago he told me Nina is coming from her house (which is a three hours drive) to sleepover at his and they are gonna watch marvel movies and I should also come, I felt bad about declining and I want to meet Nina so I agreed, he still doesn't want us to be friends and I still like him and I'm confused over why he would invite me considering the last time we met we've almost kissed. Please if you have any idea why he would invite me, help me also how do I act and what do I wear? Thanks in advance

**TL;DR;** : my best guy friend whom i have feelings for invited me for a movie night with his crush and i agreed idk what to do
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2020.10.19 22:41 MarcusWile Coping with early fatherhood after an emergency c-section

The last few weeks of pregnancy my wife was really struggling with extreme itchiness all over her body and bad anxiety about whether the baby was doing okay in her belly. We decided it was best to schedule an induction on the evening of our due date. We got to the hospital around 7:45 PM and my wife was given a dose of cytotec around 10:30 PM (she was about 1 cm at the time). The doctor checked her again around 3 AM and she was still 1 cm. She hadn’t dilated any more but the contractions were going so they didn’t want to give her another dose and decided to try the foley balloon at about 4:30 AM. Usually the balloon takes 4-5 hours to come out. The balloon came out after an hour and a half and my wife was up to 5 cm. The contractions were getting worse and worse and around 9 AM the doctor decided to break her water and insert some internal monitors to keep an eye on the baby. By 10 AM she was 9.5 cm dilated and it was almost time to push. The baby’s heart rate was dropping whenever she had a contraction but would bounce back up to baseline shortly after. The doctors let us know they were concerned but for the time being everything looked okay. The longer labor went, the harder it was for baby’s heart rate to recover. At 11:25 AM my wife started to push. After a few pushes, the baby’s heart rate dropped severely and didn’t recover and before we knew it we were being rushed into the operating room for an emergency cesarean.
Harrison was born at 11:42 am on 10/14. 8 lbs 4 oz and 20.5 inches long.
We finally had our little boy and thankfully he was absolutely perfect and healthy. There are a lot of weird emotions when you’d been thinking about the birth of your child for so long and then, in an instant, it all changes and your wife is on an operating table and you’re just worried about baby surviving. Recovery has been hard on her. And it sounds selfish, but it’s been hard on me too. I love being a dad but it’s really hard when you are responsible for literally everything besides the breastfeeding. And even the breastfeeding is a team sport. My wife has been struggling with feeling useless and I’ve been struggling with just trying to keep my head above water. Not just taking care of a baby (which is a hell of a learning curve on it’s own) but also taking care of mama is not something I was prepared for.
I guess I don’t really have a point to all this besides to get it written down somewhere. To all you other dads who are going through it and dealing with realities they didn’t expect, we can do it even when it’s really hard.
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2020.10.19 22:41 confessingmyfkup I said some really awful things to a friend who has had mental health issues because she broke up with my best friend

So in high school, I had a huge crush on my best friend we will call him Bruce. I had been friends with Bruce since around grade 7 and this took place in grade 10 of high school. So in grade 10 Bruce met a girl I will call Olivia and I became friends with her soon after.
Shortly after meeting Olivia formed a bit of a crush on Bruce and vice versa and I actually helped their relationship along since they were both extremely shy people and neither of them had been in a relationship until then. They both took a long time to get close to each other due to the aforementioned shyness from both of them and I think it took them at least a month before they held hands in public.
At this point in my life, I had come to realize I was gay, and although my best friend was straight I still had feelings for him. even though Olivia had always been a really good friend to me for the most part my teenage brain started to resent her since she was dating the person I had a crush on and they barely hung out in person(mainly in discord calls) as well as they didn't even really kiss or do anything romantic. obviously, none of that justifies resentment but I was 14 so...
Bruce also got fed up with the lack of actual couples stuff they did and told me he wanted to break up with her and I very much egged him on since my dumbass thought maybe he was thinking of getting with me since I had previously hinted at my feelings for him.
After they broke up I let out all of my resentment towards my straight best friend not wanting to get with me on Olivia saying some really fucked up shit like criticizing things I knew she was super self-conscious about. obviously, she blocked me and I haven't talked to or seen her in several years.
I still eat me up that I said those fucked up things even if it had a lot to do with hormones n shit. I wish I could apologize to her but if so if you ever find this I'm so sorry for the shit I said to you :(
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2020.10.19 22:41 armand11 Stargate: Atlantis First watchthrough, what worked, what didn't

Just finished SGA last night. Still in withdrawal as I thoroughly enjoyed this series.
I was curious to get this subreddit's thoughts as to what worked and what didn't work in the series as it's definitely flawed, albeit highly entertaining. Some of my thoughts:
What Worked:
What didn't work:
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2020.10.19 22:40 Couldbeurmom The person (52M) I've (51F) been talking to just suffered his 3rd loss in as many weeks. We've only just begun our relationship, if you can even call it that at barely over a week. How often should I initiate communication as he works through his grief?

We both feel a connection, and deactivated our dating profiles so that we can focus on one another. We texted on and off every day last week, talked on the phone a few times and had a virtual date that we really enjoyed. When he told me he lost a friend yesterday, I let him know I'd be there for him, and would lend an ear if talking about his friend would help process his feelings. He didn't feel ready to talk, and that's understandable. I haven't texted since, as I don't want him to feel any pressure from me at a time when he's already stressed. He's said (prior to this) that he values my nurturing qualities. Also prior to this, I've shared how much I appreciate his willingness to be vulnerable with me. It's important that he know I don't embrace the toxic societal expectations for men to repress their feelings. I also want him to know that I won't abandon him, even so early in, if he encounters a rough patch. I feel like if it were me, I'd appreciate a check-in daily as long as there was no pressure for it to be anything beyond that. It's nice to know that someone cares enough to make an effort. Additionally, it could be a good opportunity to lay groundwork for what might become the basis of a long term relationship. On the other hand, too much attention at such an early stage could be potentially off-putting. Should I wait until he comes to me, or is a short "just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you" text acceptable? What's the best approach?
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2020.10.19 22:39 sidewink I got into an accident and I feel lazy for not returning to work

I was merged into on the interstate and run off the road into a ditch. The driver ran, didnt stop. A witness further back on the road pulled over and dragged me out of my car, held my hand until the ambulance came, helped pull glass out of my face from where my driver side window shattered. I was taken in an ambulance to the hospital. Dislocated shoulder, broken arm, fractured ribs, glass embedded in my hands, neck, and face. Sprains in my lower back and neck, whiplash. I told my boss and he immediately asked when I would be returning back to work, to a job I hate, a job that would replace me within days if I left. I can hardly walk. I can barely stand for more than ten minutes. The week since the accident has resulted in me getting countless xrays, days I can't remember because of pain pills. I can't lift anything, my sister had to go grocery shopping for me and cook me dinner because when I tried to stand in the kitchen to cook dinner I collapsed and sobbed on the floor from the pain.
But I feel lazy. My boss keeps pushing for a return date but all I can think about is my insurance, my medical bills, dealing with police trying to find the asshole who ran me off the road. And im in so much pain I can't stand for more than ten to fifteen minutes. But I feel lazy, like im using this as an excuse to play hooky. I hate that I've been so brain washed by this money obsessed society that even when I have broken limbs and can hardly stand to go take a piss that im beating myself up for being lazy. I hate this feeling entirely.
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2020.10.19 22:38 throwaway698626 I think I'm falling in love with my best friend. Which is a little too cliche for comfort.

Around a month ago, I went through a bad breakup, and the more my best friend (let's call him Chris) and I talked, the more I recognized all those times when I'd begun crushing on him and stopped myself because I was in this relationship that was more convenient and easy for me than it was genuine. I only realized I'd just kept going because of convenience after I'd left him.
Anyway, I realized recently that I had a crush on Chris. Then one night, when I was drunk, I told him he was the kind of guy I could imagine myself marrying in one of those "if we're both still single by __, let's get married" deals. He said he'd be lying if he said he never thought about asking me out, but it was never the right time. He said we could talk about it again if it ever felt like the right time.
Well, he's been casually dating someone. The kind of casual dating where the both of you are clear that you may see someone else at any time, no problems at all. Thing is: it's his first relationship. He feels respected and cared for for the first time ever, and I'm so happy for him. Seriously - I can't express how happy I am that he finally has that.
Anyway, things turned serious the other day. They used the word "love" and they slept together, and that was when I realized I cared about him more than I thought I did. I can't tell you the way my heart sank when he told me about it. My heart's been in my stomach for days. I've hardly been able to eat since I heard about it.
I have no intention of saying anything to him, of course - he's got enough on his plate as it is and even if he says it's still casual, I'm not sure I'm sold on that claim.
I just needed to get this off my chest so I can hopefully move past this. It's certainly harder than I thought it would be.
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2020.10.19 22:37 idkdogthrowaway Would it be rash of me to completely cut off my long distance ex over sending me a video including my KNOWN worst trigger?

So I (19f) dated this man (24m) for about a year and a half, it was an international, overseas relationship. It lasted for a long time, and it was really great for a long time.
I ended up breaking things off with him at the beginning of this month because when I went to live with him for a while out relationship sort of fell apart, we argued almost every day (he treated me like shit during that time, I won't even lie. Even his mother constantly apologized for his behavior, and was my shoulder to cry on. And his friends and I still stay in contact)
But once I came back to my country we tried to really work through things, and it was fine for a while. But then he started to show me that he just wasn't ever going to be serious about our relationship, and it wasn't going anywhere. He just wasn't on a maturity level that I was. So I called him and we amicably broke things off.
Well, since then he's been posting a bunch of shit about being sad and he's hit me with a few drunken "I miss you" messages. I know he's not handling the breakup as well as I have been. But I agreed to be friends with him, because we did make really good friends.
Well, yesterday I happened to be under the influence of certain substances that would leave me at a vunerable state of mind. I was vibing, enjoying myself, when I got a snap message from him.
Obviously he'd never given me any reason not to trust him at this point, so without a second thought I opened it.
WELL, the video was of my BIGGEST trigger. He knows this. I've had MULTIPLE literal sobbing breakdowns to him when we were together over this particular trigger of mine.
Well obviously being in a vunerable state of mind it hit me EXTRA hard.
I freaked out and started cursing him out (it was a panicked reaction) and he said, and I quote, "hahahaha man I got you good"
And then was confused as to why I got so upset????
I threatened to block him and he said that he didn't know that I would react so poorly, that it was a joke and it just reminded him of me and that he wanted to talk to me.
Is this as messed up as I think it is?
I removed myself from the situation midway through before I made any rash choices but I was crying for at least three hours after the whole scenario, and it ruined my whole evening.
What should I do?
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2020.10.19 22:36 Amazingme263 I’m 23 talking to a guy 25 for over a month he he never calls at all only text

So I’ve been dating this guy for over a month now and we’ve been on several dates. The dates have been great, we have a good connection. My only issue is never calls me. We text every single day, but never talk on the phone. I brought up to him that it would nice to get a phone call every now and then and he told me he’s not a phone person but he would work on it. I still have not got a phone and it’s starting to seem weird. Should I cut it off? Advice?
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2020.10.19 22:35 Justmelookaway Should I say happy birthday?

I liked this boy in hs, like a lot. I still can’t stop thinking about him even though I graduated 3 years ago (We also stopped talking 3 years ago). He said he liked me back but we never dated. It’s his birthday today, and I feel like saying happy bday.. but that’d be weird right?
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2020.10.19 22:35 gurvlurv Did I do the right thing?

Hello! I’m hoping for some feedback regarding how I handled a situation I was in recently.
It all started about 6 weeks ago. I met a guy on Grindr and we started chatting. He just moved across the country and was looking for friends in the area. We started texting back and forth, and pretty quickly established that we would start off as friends due to the pandemic. He suggested this, as he said this is how he normally operates. I agreed because it seemed like a low pressure way to get to know someone during the pandemic.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and we met and had a nice time. We agreed to meet again. I texted him later in the day and the conversation seemed to dry up. A few days later he texted me, and then didn’t respond to my response. This pattern continued for the next few weeks. He would start conversations and then not follow up. Eventually I asked if he was still interested in getting to know each other. He said that he definitely was, and that he hadn’t been very conversational because of his new job. I told him that was fine, and that I’m not a huge texter myself.
A week later I asked if he wanted to go on a walk. He said yes, but told me that he had also been talking to another guy and things were moving forward, so that we could only get to know each other as friends “for the time being.”
I ended up confronting him, because this just didn’t track with things that he told me, and it made things I had accepted seem a bit manipulative. For example, why say you always start as friends and then a month later you’re dating someone? Also, were you really too busy to reach out to me or were you just stringing me along in case it didn’t workout with the new guy?
I told him I didn’t feel that he was honest and that I didn’t want to pursue a friendship with him. I explained that it wasn’t about him meeting someone, but it seems like he decided he wasn’t interested a while back, but threw me enough breadcrumbs to prevent me from letting things just fizzle out. Additionally, I always assumed that we were starting out as friends, but the fact that he set that expectation and then had to reconfirm sketches me out. Do you think I was too harsh in rejecting his friendship? For me it boils down to the fact that I think he originally saw me romantically, figured out he wasn’t interested but wanted to keep me as a backup under the guise of friendship. Does that sounds crazy?
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2020.10.19 22:32 rosheromil Rebooking - WrestleMania 33

Mania 33 had a pretty stacked card and was an overall decent show but I feel like with better booking it could have been an era defining event. The WWE was feeling fresher than ever, coming off the brand split in the summer of 2016 and this was the culmination of months of entertaining TV. It was a night to propel the stars of the future as well as celebrate the legends of the past. Heres how I would have booked WrestleMania 33…


Cruiserweight Championship - Neville (c) def. Austin Aries
In my humble opinion, this was the best WrestleMania pre-show match to date. Neville was excelling with his King of the Cruiserweights gimmick and Aries, whilst polarizing off-screen, is undeniably talented and it’s a shame he never mounted to more in the company. Neville submits A Double to retain his title just like in real life.
Andre The Giant Memorial Battle Royal - Samoa Joe wins by last eliminating Sami Zayn
The Andre the Giant Battle Royal should have some stakes to it otherwise its essentially a meaningless attempt at getting midcarders and jobbers on the card at WrestleMania. So I would have the winner get a shot at one of the world titles in the future. Both Joe and Sami deserve better than this in all honesty but let them have a fun final exchange with the Destroyer overpowering the spirited underdog to earn a future title opportunity.
Smackdown Women’s Championship - Naomi def. Alexa Bliss, Becky Lynch and Mickie James
So I feel like a bit of a d*ck putting this on the pre-show but in all honesty, I think it would be allowed more time to excel here instead of being crammed into the bathroom break spot that it got on the main card. Naomi makes a triumphant return to reclaim the belt in her hometown just like in reality.
Main Show
WrestleMania Guest Host - The Miz (w/ Maryse)
The Miz was on fire on the mic during late 2016, early 2017. The brand split really helped him to revive his career and he hasn’t looked back since. Instead of having the New Day host the show, Id give that honour to The Miz. You can have a Mania edition of MizTV with that years hall of fame headliner Kurt Angle and maybe some other legends as well to add that bit more pomp to the event. Afterall, its WrestleMania people!
Street Fight - Dean Ambrose def. Shane McMahon
This match sounds like it would be a bloody war on paper. Back in the summer of 2016, Ambrose was on top of the world. He was finally the WWE Champion and Smackdown Live’s no. 1 draft pick. For all intents and purposes, he was the man chosen by Shane O’Mac himself to lead the blue brand into the future...But then he got complacent. He went on a downwards spiral that saw him drop the belt to AJ and lose his momentum in the process. Continue to build this narrative that Ambrose has gotten careless and is a shell of his former badass self…
This is until Shane questions the former champ and lights a fire in his eyes like never before. Suddenly the real Dean Ambrose is back, delivering good ol’ Mox violence to anyone and everyone in sight including Shane O’Mac himself. Now Shane attempts to rid his show of the man he once wanted to build it around. It’s Dean Ambrose vs Shane O’Mac, this generations answer to Austin vs Vince, in a Street Fight, and the loser leaves Smackdown Live. After a brutal war to open the show, Ambrose’s new found ruthlessness gives him the edge over Shane who is forced to relinquish his role as the Commissioner of Smackdown Live.
Triple Threat for the RAW Womens Championship - Bayley def. Charlotte (c) & Sasha Banks
I’d keep this the same as in real life, with two differences...no Nia Jax because she's not in the same league as the other three and also, Bayley doesn’t go into the match as champion. Charlotte does, meaning the Queen is still undefeated at pay per views or whatever that stat was. The match stays largely the same but when Bayley beats Charlotte, she has her crowning moment on the Grandest Stage instead of bloody Fastlane.
Brock Lesnar (w/ Paul Heyman) def. Braun Strowman
Ever since the brand split, Braun Strowman had gone from weird looking member of the Wyatts to this monster powerhouse on RAW. He was over as hell and they should have capitalised by doing the Monster vs the Beast at WrestleMania, instead of Brock-Goldberg 3 which, to be fair, was a fan match, but two part timers fighting each other at Mania for the world title is poor booking. Instead have Brock and Braun clash during the Rumble, only for Strowman to overpower Lesnar just like Bill did in real life. Then keep the match short and sweet similar to Goldberg-Lesnar. I’d give Brock a narrow win but keep Braun looking strong in the process.
RAW Tag Team Championships - The Hardy Boyz def. The Bar (c), The New Day & Enzo & Cass
Keep this very similar to the real life Fatal Four Way Ladder Match. Matt and Jeff’s surprise return was a brilliant WrestleMania moment. Since I don’t have New Day hosting, I would have them in this match instead of Anderson & Gallows. The Hardyz win just like in real life to cap off their epic return to the company.
Bray Wyatt def. Randy Orton
In real life, this match was for the WWE Championship and yeah…it was weird to say the least. The feud between Bray and Randy didn’t feel like it needed the title, and the belt was just hotshot off a deserving Styles for no real reason. Instead, I would have the duo implode inside the Chamber and build to a singles match at Mania where Wyatt goes over. Also, no maggots for christ sake…
Unsanctioned Match - Seth Rollins def. Triple H (w/ Stephanie McMahon)
The thing I’d change about this dates all the way back to Rollins’ return in the summer of 2016. He came back with this badass redesign, rebuild, reclaim gimmick and defeated Reigns clean at MITB. The fans were loving it and he was super over but then they decided to have him return to the cowardly heel he was pre-injury and this didn’t help him one bit when he did eventually turn face in the fall.
Instead you keep that tweener persona going until that Fatal Four Way for the title on RAW. Its him and KO in the final two and Rollins is the crowd favourite but then HHH returns to cost him the belt, claiming he got too big for his boots etc etc. That aside I liked the whole unsanctioned element to their match, eventhough it wasn’t planned. In the end, Rollins beats the Game to earn redemption and adds another WrestleMania moment to his career. Also keep the Steph table spot because lols.
No Holds Barred Match - Roman Reigns def. The Undertaker
Just imagine if it was this current day version of Roman Reigns who faced and beat The Undertaker back at WrestleMania 33. That would have been a whole lot better than what we ended up getting. I would have Reigns turn heel in this match, and brutally assaulting the Deadman in a similar mauling to what Jey Uso received at the Clash a few weeks ago. Taker rallys but Reigns essentially puts down the old dog to a chorus of boos and becomes just the second person to beat the Phenom at Mania. Taker gets carried out, he doesn’t do a farewell since he didn’t retire after this and that looks odd looking back now. He can return later down the line but for now, Roman Reigns is WWE’s biggest mega heel in years.
'Title vs Career' Match for the Universal Championship - Kevin Owens (c) def. Chris Jericho
Why oh why was this not for the Universal Championship? Owens and Jericho had carried RAW on their backs for months with the hilarious partnership and KO’s betrayal at the Festival of Frienship remains one of the best moments in the history of Monday Night RAW. They deserved to fight for the world title at WrestleMania, not be in the second match of the night for the US Championship. If you want, you can add the stipulation of Title vs Career since it was Jericho’s last run with the company anyway. KO wins clean and Y2J gets a fitting send-off after the match.
WWE Championship - John Cena def. AJ Styles (c)
For me, Cena vs Styles just sounds like a WrestleMania main event. I would have only had them fight once before this, at Summerslam 2016, where AJ beats John clean. Styles then goes on that great run with the WWE Championship (including beating Shawn Michaels in a dream match at the Rumble) and goes into Mania as champion like he deserved. Then you have the story of Cena chasing history. He wants to tie Ric Flairs record of 16 world championships on the Grandest Stage. He fails at the Rumble, he fails at the Chamber but he earns his shot on Smackdown and suddenly we have this. The rematch to their epic at Summerslam, it the Phenomenal WWE Champion AJ Styles against the history-chasing John Cena.
It no doubt would have been a classic. It took me a while to decide who should go over but in the end I went for Cena to equal the record and celebrate history to close the show. I would even have AJ shake his hands after the match, turning babyface since he was on that path anyway. And then because Cena isn’t full time anymore, he could drop the belt to Styles or even the battle royal winner Samoa Joe at the next pay per view.

So that’s how I would have booked WrestleMania 33...
I think you can see a clear theme of old versus new with the stars of the future looking strong. One thing about 33 is it lacked those awesome Mania moments barring the Hardyz return. In this version you have that plus a Roman Reigns heel turn, Chris Jericho's last hurrah and John Cena equaling Flairs illustrious world title record. I think it would have made for a fun Mania anyway, and I hope you enjoyed!
Check out the other WrestelMania rebookings below:
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2020.10.19 22:32 bby-apples Should I make my SO the same christmas gift I made my past 2 SOs, or make him something new?

Hello! I (23F) want to make my boyfriends (21M) Christmas gift this year. I’m thinking about making him a “52 things I love about you” book made out of a deck of cards - write one thing I love about him on each card, decorate the cards, super cheesy. I know he would love it.
The thing is, I’ve made that same gift for the past 2 boyfriends I’ve had (with different reasons written on the cards of course).
For the past 2, I just thought the idea was cute. But card games are my current SO and I’s thing (I taught him to play Speed on our first date, and now we play it all the time). I wish I wouldn’t have used that idea for the past 2 boyfriends, because my current SO is most certainly the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I really want to make him this gift because I know it will look amazing (I’m really crafty) and he will appreciate it much more than the last 2 did.
My gut tells me that although it’s the same gift, the reasons on the cards will be different, and my feelings are so much different/stronger for my current SO, so it’s not really the same gift.
I know that if he made me the same gift as past girlfriends, it might ruin it a bit for me. But that is probably because I can be a bit jealous/insecure sometimes (I’m working on it). So I thought I’d get an outside opinion. Am I overthinking this?
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2020.10.19 22:31 CherimolaGrape Triad communication

Hi everyone! So I'm in a situation where I think I'm in the right, but I'm also someone who's very easy to gaslight. Or if I can genuinely improve something I'm doing I want to learn.
So I'm in a triad with my long term partner of over 10 years and our girlfriend. We opened the relationship under 2 years ago and while I swore I was straight and monogamous this all changed when he met our mutual partner a few months ago. I found myself intensely attracted to her and we connected very quickly. This was all very distressing to our partner who up until then was calling the shots so to speak. Up until I became serious with his partner he was going on dates and disclosing them to me but leaving out important details all around and there was no one else holding him accountable. I'm worried that his reluctance to communicate will cost me my wonderful new relationship.
At the beginning with me I had to drag details out of him (ex. Mainly who he was having unprotected sex with and when for my safety). He infuriatingly left this detail out with both people he decided to have unprotected sex with. He'd justify it by saying that I had to trust he was keeping me safe and not police him. He said it felt like he was reporting to me. I knew it was bullshit but he promised he would tell me and I believed him. I'm questioning that now.
While he's become more forthcoming with me about what I want to know as he's realized I am usually grateful for the details rather than upset, I'm noticing our poor partner is getting the short end of the stick and he's omitting details with her now. She has made it clear several times that she wants to know whenever he is going to have unprotected sex. He hasn't been with anyone new since he promised he would tell me so I don't know how he'll act with a new person.
I chat with my girlfriend daily and I mentioned I designated a separate set of sheets for his 'guests'. She seemed genuinely surprised by this, saying that he never told her he was still actively sleeping with people. I generally don't bring it up but I assumed she knew. She started crying and I felt horrible. She knows he's poly and that he's casually looking for a sub but she expected him to tell her if there was anything in the works, including casual dates.
She had no idea he was hosting someone this week and seeing someone else on the weekend. I felt bad, like I had crossed a boundary, but then I think she has a right to these details and I shouldn't be shamed for talking about them. She claims she asked him specifically for these things in the past, so I didn't know how else to advise her.
When he found out he got really upset and told me that this is why he was uncomfortable with my relationship with her (um so the people you're hiding stuff from don't talk?). He told me that I overstepped by sharing things about his life he wasn't ready to share (hah).
To add to this I have a neurological condition that makes it really easy to gaslight me because my memory and inhibition is really bad. I'm used to people calling me out and I try to listen rather than be defensive, but I don't know how else to view this.
Am I okay to share things with her like this? Otherwise I feel like I have to cover for him. TIA.
TLDR: My partner has a habit of lying by omission and he's doing it to our girlfriend. I don't want to participate in lying to her by censoring what I tell her.
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2020.10.19 22:31 ByoByoxInCrox Projections of the past & future.

Before i start, I'll make it clear that these are questions coming with a religious bias. I can't pose this question to Jordan himself, so i figured his community would be the next best thing. This is likely to come with a lot of story, so I thank you if you manage to plow through to find the underlying question(s). I will try to highlight key parts to hopefully make them more clear. I am not an amazing writer.

I have always been deeply invested in history, its been my biggest obstacle in regards to my religion. I am Christian, and have been taught Christianity from a 'Creationist' standpoint. I'm not one to disbelieve my family. They haven't been overbearing, or untrustworthy. I've posed the question to my father, 'If the bible uses analogies to describe more complex concepts, why then do we take the 7 days literally?' Paraphrasing, he gave the answer, 'Because other evidence in the bible corroborates the 7 days being literal.' I then asked about 2 Peter 3:8 'With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.' wondering if that was applicable to the 7 days. When Peter wrote that, he did so to explain the wait before Revelation. So, it seemed clear that god was explaining hes not constrained by our understanding of time, and 7 days to him could be incalculably different to us. Sadly, my father's rebut to that got lost in my mind. Nevertheless, the idea still hangs in my head, undecided as to whether it could be applicable.
Peterson has expressed his doubt of Climate Change projections by saying, 'The further into the future we predict, the more errors accumulate.' This is something i agree with, and was wondering why he allowed room for things such as Carbon Dating. I think it's due to him accepting things as 'good science', so long as they have been thoroughly 'beaten.' It doesn't necessarily make it truth, but he is right that it does make it good science. If errors accumulate the further we predict, and science presently predicts the Earth to be 14.5 billion years old; how do we trust that, and why does it hold more integrity than a Creationist outlook, which predicts Earth to be roughly 7,000 years old? I'm not keen to call myself a Creationist, largely because i think the label's worth is dwarfed by that of 'Christian.' It's much more important to accept your savior, than to nitpick. But as i said, I've always been invested in history, curiosity naturally brings me to this broad concept of how Earth's history progressed. I can't say i'm convinced on either. I don't have much reason to disbelieve my father. Hes incredibly smart, has been a Christian for 30 years, and has been researching possible meanings for biblical text ever since. Peterson is also incredibly smart, and has been doing the same, and seems to have come to a different conclusion.
Regardless of the answer, it doesn't have an effect on my faith. I've thought as thoroughly as i could, as to how both would be possible within a biblical context. Personally i don't see Creation as ridiculous, and regardless of Earth's age, i don't believe it was an amalgamation of just chance and time.
This is where i clarify the more specific question. Consider this a branch of the last question. Why does Jordan accept Carbon Dating as scientifically accurate? I don't know if he's ever spoken abut it. With the little research I've done on Carbon Dating, it seems as if the scientists conducting the experiments, admit that there is considerable potential for error, and even then it is only a rough estimation.

I'm interested in your answers, regardless of if you're religious, secular, or atheist.
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2020.10.19 22:29 mackageee What is a good book to give a woman in her early 30s about healthy relationship expectations?

My friend [32F] struggles with self-sabotaging behavior in relationships. For example, she sends guys pictures of wedding rings/dresses a month in because her mentality is "if they're not serious about marriage, I'd rather scare them off now than have them waste my time". She's in another new relationship and is angry because her new bf [31M] of 1.5 months thinks it's too early to meet his family and because his mom has a picture of his ex on her Facebook page. She sees every little thing that doesn't go her way as "proof he's not serious" and shouts at him that if he's going to leave her he has to do it now. She constantly is comparing their relationship timeline to his ex's ("they went on a trip X months in, we should be doing it sooner") and also uses that as "proof he doesn't love her". She also tends to drink heavily on dates and will pick a fight as a result.
I [28F] know all this because I get long texts detailing everything. We've had discussions about her self-sabotaging behavior and she is trying to control it, but honestly I'm getting tired of having to always to explain healthy expectations and behaviors to her over and over again. I've told her she needs to go to a therapist, but she makes excuses. However, she is a voracious reader and I'm hoping if I give her a book she will read it, but I have no idea where to start looking. I've also warned her that I'm doing this so she won't be offended.
TLDR; What are some books or other resources you would recommend for a woman in her 30s about healthy relationship expectations/behaviors so she can stop self-sabotaging?
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